After 11 years of marriage, any tips for keeping a relationship hot?
Nice outfits and high heels! And talking. And making time. You've got to make time. Our men want to feel important. We want to feel important. So it's about establishing an environment in which that can happen. It can be hard because we get caught in the grind of life. Establish relationships with family members or friends and take turns with each other's kids so you can make that time for yourselves. It doesn't take a lot of money — wallets are tight right now — so just simple stuff. A night walk? Man, do I love those. Or pack a lunch and go to the park, like Will and I did. Even a drive — and then pull over on the side of the road! Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary! Be sneaky. Your girlfriend's house at a party. The bathroom! A guest bedroom! Just switch it up. Anything like that can keep it going. Anything it takes to keep the flame alive.
Mental note, if I ever invite Will Smith and Jada over for a party lock all the door or make sure to change the sheets after the party. Seriously good for them for keeping their marriage and sex life alive. Maybe if more couples did that the divorce rate would go down a bit.
BTW Jada talked about so much more in her interesting interview with Redbook Magazine that also includes exclusive family pictures taken by her.
